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my 00:20:12.390 --> 00:20:12.400 align:start position:0% um so if you just like copy some of my 00:20:12.400 --> 00:20:14.470 align:start position:0% um so if you just like copy some of my superficial<00:20:13.039> traits<00:20:13.440> because<00:20:13.679> you<00:20:13.840> assume<00:20:14.320> i 00:20:14.470 --> 00:20:14.480 align:start position:0% superficial traits because you assume i 00:20:14.480 --> 00:20:15.669 align:start position:0% superficial traits because you assume i must<00:20:14.720> have<00:20:14.880> thought<00:20:15.120> it<00:20:15.200> out<00:20:15.360> and<00:20:15.520> they're 00:20:15.669 --> 00:20:15.679 align:start position:0% must have thought it out and they're 00:20:15.679 --> 00:20:17.990 align:start position:0% must have thought it out and they're good<00:20:16.159> it's<00:20:16.320> like<00:20:16.960> maybe<00:20:17.280> they're<00:20:17.520> good<00:20:17.760> if<00:20:17.919> you 00:20:17.990 --> 00:20:18.000 align:start position:0% good it's like 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