So I've got a question.
Are we ready to admit yet that the manosphere exists for a reason?
This isn't a defense of it.
I don't think it should. And in fact,
the main reason I started this account was to fight back against it.
But, like,
can we collectively admit that something this ugly with this much staying power
does serve a purpose? Because
anytime I see a video where somebody inches towards a modicum of understanding
as to why something like this might exist,
they just thoughtlessly write it off as standard
garden variety misogyny and move on with their day,
having unveiled no real information
and conferring no real value to the rest of us
to understanding why we've gotten here.
So let's start with that, because I think the most common
and most harmful misunderstanding about the manosphere
is that it exists to amplify a pre existing hatred of women
in the men who get sucked into it.
And as a man who did get sucked into it 15 years ago,
nothing could be further from the truth.
I have, since I was a child,
firmly believed that men and women were equal,
and I have primarily been friends with and gotten along with
and been close to women. The one thing people do seem to get right is
I was be pretty unsuccessful romantically,
and I was very frustrated about that.
So the first thing that I did is talk to the women I knew.
And even look online for advice from women in what I might be getting wrong.
And this is not something that's unique to me.
Nearly every man that I have talked to
or seen talk about their entry into the manosphere or the red pill
has had the same first step,
that they have either talked to
or looked to two women online for advice on what they should do.
And all of us got the same answers back.
Just be yourself or just be nice.
Which, in case you're wondering why we have this scourge of nice guys
who believe that is enough for them to be attractive to somebody,
it is because that is what they were told was the only thing they needed to do.
Now, before anyone gets upset about what I've just said,
I need you to understand that I don't care.
This is an informative video,
not a criticism nor defense of anything.
Let's stay on topic.
Having failed to glean any useful advice from the women I talk to on this topic,
I decided the next best place to look would be men who seem to be successful.
This is where a lot of people like to hack together an analogy
about fish and fishermen. But
I think the reality is that we just think a lot less
about what attracts us to other people
than what attracts other people to us.
But this right here is the Trojan horse.
Because for most Men again,
at least the ones who get sucked into this,
this is the first time in their life that they have gotten good,
useful advice on how to be more compelling and attractive to women.
Because it's not just be yourself or be more confident or go to the gym.
It is.
Here is a step by step guide on what could make you more socially compelling.
You need to go to the gym.
Here is a good starter program.
Here is what you're looking for.
You need better style. Great.
Here are some examples of what look better.
This is a thoroughly fleshed out guide
on how to be more attractive and compelling as a man.
And not all of the advice is good,
and often times
they will give the wrong reason for why the good advice does work.
But this is the first time in my life
that I got advice on the subject that actually worked.
And from there, it's a steady stream of indoctrination
where they use their position as the first person to give you good advice
to convince you that everyone else gave you bad advice
because they don't care, because they don't want you to succeed,
because you're just not good enough in their eyes.
And therefore, this community is all you have.
They use the fact that the advice women gave you didn't work
when the formulas that they gave you did
as evidence that women supposedly lack agency
and They use the existence of this broadly anti man content, which,
don't kid yourself, is out there,
as evidence that women hate you.
So all you're doing is protecting yourself.
I spent a good amount of time learning about these tactics
over the last 10 years. And this is not unique to the manosphere.
This is the basic playbook of indoctrination.
But as long as we pretend that male loneliness is something that they deserve,
that the only men who aren't successful in their dating lives
are men who hate women or are seeking to use them,
then we guarantee that they have nowhere to go
except for the people who will teach them to do just that.
And if you tell yourself that this only works on weak people
and it could never happen to you,
then all you're doing is making sure that you are the perfect target.