[0:00]
sit with me while I tell you how horrible men are if you don't know if you don't follow me um I had a hysterectomy at 22 I don't have ovaries anymore I lost one ovary before that procedure but I don't have ovaries anymore and I have part of my cervix so having a hysterectomy at 22 I obviously felt very isolated not a lot of people in my age bracket had to have that surgery and had to go screaming through surgical menopause and so I searched out for support groups and I found some support groups on Facebook and a couple other platforms 
[0:31]
and I joined them and let me tell you when I joined those support groups I was not at all prepared for the literally illegal and and criminal things that were going to be uh discussed and I guess confessed in those groups and it wasn't the women doing illegal things it was their partners it was their partners literally forcing themselves on their freshly post op wives and girlfriends it was their partners saying things like well 
[1:03]
you know the doctor said no um P N V so why don't we do P N B or it was them quite literally again forcing themselves on their wives it was them saying well if you don't sleep with me right now even though you're like two days post radical hysterectomy and you have a massive incision on your stomach if you don't sleep with me right now I'm gonna go sleep with somebody else and so it was them coercing their their partners into doing things or quite literally forcing their partners into doing things 
[1:35]
that they were not surgically cleared for um they didn't feel you know physically or emotionally or mentally ready to do and a lot of it was the aftermath of that a lot of it was women saying I did this because my husband wanted it I was not ready and now my organs are literally falling out of me now I have prolapse now I have a horrific infection now I have a widespread infection in my entire pelvis 
[2:09]
now I have to go back in for more surgery now I'm hemorrhaging help me what do I do there are a lot of women who were recovering and had no support whatsoever and their husband was literally just trying to use them like a blow up doll so they had children they had young children they had no support system their husband was obviously not taking care of the children so a lot of these women had cancer and had to have full open abdominal incision hysterectomies and they were literally gutted like a fish 
[2:42]
and then they're having to go home they're still on chemo they just had a massive surgery and they're supposed to be taking care of little kids and servicing their husband and they would post in the group and be like I don't know what to do like I literally I feel like I'm dying I I'm in so much pain I have no help like what am I supposed to do and I'll never forget the one young lady she wasn't much older than me um and she had had her hysterectomy because she had uterine cancer um 
[3:15]
and I think she also had cervical cancer and she had to have a full open hysterectomy where like they literally carved her innards out um and it's a it's a massive surgery and then she had some post operative complications and when she came home the day and I can remember her face still like I remember her profile picture the day she came home her husband forced himself on her 
[3:46]
ripped her stitches she had a cuff she had a vaginal cuff cause she lost her cervix ripped her cuff she had prolapse and she got a raging infection and he didn't even care and she was trapped with that man and this happens all the time like this is not a rarity I naively you know when I was 22 and I joined those groups I I assumed that there would 
[4:18]
I would see some of that but I'm talking like post after post after post day after day after day of women being like my husband's trying to pressure me into having sex and I just had a hysterectomy six days ago my husband is trying to pressure me into doing anal even though the doctor said not to do that either because they're right next to each other the holes are next to each other you can't when you have had that surgery whether you had you still have your cervix or not um whether it was you know open radical hysterectomy or whether it was a laparoscopic hysterectomy 
[4:51]
hysterectomy you cannot go putting stuff in there it it literally could be a death sentence if you could get a horrific infection you can have multiple organ prolapse you can go from needing just the hysterectomy to needing an ostomy bag and that also happened multiple times again because men could not just not act like a fucking wild 
[5:22]
rabid animal and literally attack their wife or attack their partner and I think about I literally think about that like all the time every time and I'm still I'm still in some of those groups because it's it's valuable information and it's it's a supportive community but every time I see a post like that I wanna go and find the man that is pressuring that woman or or potentially even trying to force himself on that woman and I wanna cut his dick off and I wanna shove it down his throat and I'm gonna do it in front of the mirror and make him watch 
[5:54]
because how much of an animal do you have to be whether you even like give a shit about your partner or not just like another human being how much uh do you have to view your partner as inferior to you and a subhuman that you know that they just had a surgery that involves nothing going in the kitty cat and still because you wanna get your rocks off and because you're a fucking animal and you have no self control you still make your partner do things 
[6:26]
knowing it could literally kill them or irreparably and horrifically harm them and then after you irreparably harm them you would probably just leave them and then move on to the next woman because that's what happens with disabled and chronically ill women the male partner leaves when he doesn't get what he wants anymore or if he ever has to step into a caretaking role he doesn't step into the caretaking role he just goes and finds somebody 10 years younger