sit with me while I tell you how horrible men are
if you don't know if you don't follow me
um I had a hysterectomy at 22
I don't have ovaries anymore
I lost one ovary before that procedure
but I don't have ovaries anymore
and I have part of my cervix
so having a hysterectomy at 22
I obviously felt very isolated
not a lot of people in my age bracket had to have that surgery
and had to go screaming through surgical menopause
and so I searched out for support groups
and I found some support groups on Facebook and a couple other platforms
and I joined them and let me tell you
when I joined those support groups
I was not at all prepared for the literally illegal and
and criminal things that were going to be
uh discussed and
I guess confessed in those groups
and it wasn't the women doing illegal things
it was their partners it was their partners
literally forcing themselves on their freshly post op wives and girlfriends
it was their partners saying things like well
you know the doctor said no
um P N V
so why don't we do P N B
or it was them quite literally
again forcing themselves on their wives
it was them saying well
if you don't sleep with me right now
even though you're like
two days post radical hysterectomy
and you have a massive incision on your stomach
if you don't sleep with me
right now I'm gonna go sleep with somebody else
and so it was them coercing their
their partners into doing things
or quite literally forcing their partners into doing things
that they were not surgically cleared for
um they didn't feel
you know physically or emotionally or mentally ready to do
and a lot of it was the aftermath of that
a lot of it was women saying
I did this because my husband wanted it
I was not ready and now my organs are literally falling out of me
now I have prolapse
now I have a horrific infection
now I have a widespread infection in my entire pelvis
now I have to go back in for more surgery
now I'm hemorrhaging
help me what do I do
there are a lot of women who were recovering and had no support whatsoever
and their husband was literally just trying to use them like a blow up doll
so they had children they had young children
they had no support system
their husband was obviously not taking care of the children
so a lot of these women had cancer and had to have full open abdominal incision
hysterectomies and they were literally gutted like a fish
and then they're having to go home
they're still on chemo
they just had a massive surgery
and they're supposed to be taking care of little kids
and servicing their husband
and they would post in the group and be like
I don't know what to do like
I literally I feel like I'm dying
I I'm in so much pain
I have no help like
what am I supposed to do and I'll never forget the one young lady
she wasn't much older than me um
and she had had her hysterectomy because she had uterine cancer um
and I think she also had cervical cancer
and she had to have a full open hysterectomy where like
they literally carved her innards out um
and it's a it's a massive surgery
and then she had some post operative complications
and when she came home the day
and I can remember her face still
like I remember her profile picture
the day she came home
her husband forced himself on her
ripped her stitches she had a cuff
she had a vaginal cuff cause she lost her cervix
ripped her cuff she had prolapse
and she got a raging infection
and he didn't even care
and she was trapped with that man
and this happens all the time
like this is not a rarity
I
naively you know
when I was 22 and I joined those groups
I I assumed that there would
I would see some of that but I'm talking like
post after post after post
day after day after day of women being like
my husband's trying to pressure me into having sex
and I just had a hysterectomy six days ago
my husband is trying to pressure me into doing anal
even though the doctor said not to do that either
because they're right next to each other
the holes are next to each other
you can't when you have had that surgery
whether you had you still have your cervix or not
um whether it was
you know open radical hysterectomy or whether it was a laparoscopic hysterectomy
hysterectomy
you cannot go putting stuff in there
it it literally could be a death sentence
if you could get a horrific infection
you can have multiple organ prolapse
you can go from needing just the hysterectomy to needing an ostomy bag
and that also happened multiple times again because men could not
just not act like a fucking wild
rabid animal and literally attack their wife or attack their partner
and I think about I literally think about that like
all the time every time
and I'm still I'm still in some of those groups because it's
it's valuable information
and it's it's a supportive community
but every time I see a post like that
I wanna go and find the man that is pressuring that woman or
or potentially even trying to force himself on that woman
and I wanna cut his dick off
and I wanna shove it down his throat
and I'm gonna do it in front of the mirror and make him watch
because how much of an animal do you have to be
whether you even like
give a shit about your partner or not just like another human being
how much uh
do you have to view your partner as inferior to you and a subhuman
that you know that they just had a surgery that involves nothing going in
the kitty cat and still
because you wanna get your rocks off
and because you're a fucking animal and you have no self control
you still make your partner do things
knowing it could literally kill them or irreparably and horrifically harm them
and then after you irreparably harm them
you would probably just leave them and then move on to the next woman
because that's what happens with disabled and chronically ill women
the male partner leaves when he doesn't get what he wants anymore
or if he ever has to step into a caretaking role
he doesn't step into the caretaking role
he just goes and finds somebody 10 years younger